Roommates suck guys. Especially mine.
Happy National (or is it International?) Coffee Day! Be sure to check with your local businesses and baristas to see if they are offering specials or free cups today. I think Krispy Kreme, Dunkin’ Donuts, McDonald’s, and Pilot convenience stores are participating… not sure who else, but it might save you some money to ask!
I CANNOT BELIEVE ITTTT. So welcome to new folks, hello hello, and thank you so much to all those who have been following me for a really long time too. Eeeeeeee!
To celebrate, here are some nerdy ways my new followers can get acquainted with my strange:
I’ve updated my alphabetical tags list, which I am super proud of, oh my god, it’s beautiful, so organized yisssss
Also added a very short about me page because omg super organized yissss.
ALL THE LOVE
themoonmothwrites replied to your post “I came out to my husband last night. It. Was. Awesome. When we…”
love you <3
I love you too, you know it.
squidproquo-ink replied to your post “I came out to my husband last night. It. Was. Awesome. When we…”
This is awesome, I’m so happy for you! You and your husband clearly have a very special relationship and bond <3
Yes, I consider myself very lucky to have found someone like him. We have gotten through many trials and tribulations together, and I’m sure there are many more ahead… but one thing we have that’s always been really strong is our support and understanding when it comes to our dark pasts and our acceptance of our each other’s identities as a people. Thanks for your lovely reply, as always!
This little girl went missing from her hotel in Prince Albert last night. If you see her call the police at 1-306-953-4222.
Saskatchewan and prairie peeps please reblog.
Man, she went to get a pop from the vending machine in her hotel and disappeared. This was this morning.
They still haven’t found her.
Madison MacIntyre, 13 years old.
SIGNAL BOOST, PLEASE.
MacIntyre is described as being between 5’ 5” and 5’ 6” in height and weighs approximately 120 pounds. She was last seen wearing black Saskatchewan Roughrider shorts and a grey Metallica T-shirt.
Anyone with information regarding MacIntyre’s whereabouts should contact the Prince Albert Police Service at 306-953-4222 or Crime Stoppers at 1-800-222-8477.
Going to date this with September 26, 2014, so you all know it’s relevant NOW. Just checked it out, it’s true.
As of September 27th, 2014 at 2:32pm Saskatchewan time - Madison MacIntyre still hasn’t been seen or heard from.
I don’t see any reason to put off announcing it any longer, so without further ado, this is the “secret” project I was working on. Check out some of the articles:
- What is Demisexuality?
- Could I Be Demisexual?
- Am I Demisexual If…
- Coming Out As Demisexual
- And more!
Share it, link to it, use it! Consider this a soft launch, and please provide feedback if you have it.* I want to do a bigger launch for Asexual Awareness Week.
* Seriously, I would really appreciate ideas for articles, links and other ways to improve the site.
Eee I love this message! Yeah, I chose this url because I love grackles and I was very introverted and antisocial in high school, so I often felt like the smallest of the flock (which is really ironic because I’m super tall). Oddly enough, the name has no connection to Sansa’s “little bird” thing. That’s just a wonderful coincidence! I’ve been using this alias on the internet for a long time :)
Great to hear from you, Anon. Your message made me smile.
waverlyrowan replied to your post “I came out to my husband last night. It. Was. Awesome. When we…”
this is so wonderful!!!!!
I came out to my husband last night.
It. Was. Awesome.
When we first considered dating, I talked to him about the fact that I had never been sexually attracted to anyone before I met him (when I was 19), had never had sex before, and wasn’t remotely interested in sex. Though he’d been in lots of sexual relationships, he dated me anyway. I think he’s always assumed my lack of sexual needs was due to my PTSD and harmful childhood experiences, and I thought the same thing.
But as I’ve gotten older and more familiar with myself, I realized it’s not just that I was afraid of sex (though sometimes I was) or completely repulsed by it all the time (though often, I am, especially when it involves anyone other than myself and James) … I just wasn’t interested in it. I thought it was weird, awkward, unnecessary. When James and I were friends, I really cared for him, but my feelings only leaned somewhat in the romantic direction, never sexual. And, hell, I had felt that way about a woman before, so at the time, I didn’t know if it was actually romantic or not because I’d never had a physical experience with anyone at all, and I didn’t want one. I wasn’t sure what to do when he told me he had feelings for me too because I knew I was kind of a strange person when it came to romance.
Finally, after six months of best-friendship, a year of long-distance relationship, and another year of actual face-to-face dating… my romantic feelings finally became sexual too. This was really hilarious because it was like having a second puberty. I had never felt anything like that before…and yeah, it took for-freakin-ever, but he stuck with me until I was ready. I think when I knew him so well that my heart decided he was my soulmate, my body decided so too. Now, after five and a half years of dating, we’re married.
Well, throughout our relationship, we’ve had our arguments and problems, as all relationships do. However, he’s always wondered why my libido is completely unpredictable. I can go for weeks and weeks without a sexual thought or, when sex does happen, I don’t enjoy it that much. But then if we get a break from work and school and happen to have a really awesome conversation or just spend the day bonding, I am suddenly super turned on!!! hahaha. Like the heterosexual majority, James is interested in sex as often as he’s interested in doing anything he enjoys.. it’s fun, it’s stress relief, it comes naturally. But I only get that way when we are super in-sync on a mental/emotional basis. And this only happens with him. Otherwise, I never experience sexual attraction, or positive thoughts about sex at all.
So last night, we talked about it and I finally shared with him some of the research I’ve been doing on the asexuality spectrum. Then it went something like, “So I might seem moody when it comes to sex, but it’s just that my interest in having it coincides with the current state of my mental/emotional connection with you. I’m actually demisexual. All the years before I was with you, I may have been completely asexual at that time. I don’t know. I’m probably panromantic or pansexual too, because I doubt anything about our relationship would be very different if you were some other gender on the spectrum. And now, that part doesn’t even matter because we’re both highly monogamous.”
And he was just cool like… he didn’t even have questions. He was just glad it wasn’t something he was doing wrong.
I AM SO FUCKING RELIEVED RIGHT NOW YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW
lol, I guess I just came out to tumblr too.